Updating Site

Yes, I’ve crawled back out from under that rock of depression that periodically seems to hammer me, and I’m back.

For how long…who knows? *sigh*

But while I’m here I want to update this blog, use a new template that makes it easier for us to comment to one another’s posts. I want a conversation tree, so we can respond to specific comments and our comments will publish under the one we responded to. I think it will make it easier to follow that way.

So I’ve got a little “template shopping” to do, and hopefully this site can get a new look for the new year.

Hoping you are doing well.

Here’s to flexing our wings and flying again 🙂


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About PhoenixRising

Singer/songwriter, human rights activist and author of the book series and podcast, "Where There's Smoke: Covert Abuse". Demian Yumei's creative focus is on reclaiming your dream and healing the wounds that prevent that. Her artist activist site: keepingthedream.com
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4 Responses to Updating Site

  1. Rae says:

    I am so glad you’re back! I was just coming in to check on you.

    The depression is a battle, isn’t it? It’s hard to come out on top of our lives when it seems like there’s always something in their arsenal, ready to strike.

  2. PhoenixRising says:

    Awww, thank you, Rae! That is SO sweet…that’s really sweet.

    Yes, it is a battle. I’m actually getting better, but you hit those bumps in the road, and sometimes you just get depressed over getting depressed! And then you’re really screwed! LOL! What a mess.

    I’d just love to wake up one day and discover that I’m really free. Not sure if that’s possible…maybe when I come to a place where it no longer matters…that’s when I realize that I truly am free.

    Everyone has bad days. So…we have people in our lives who are especially talented in giving those bad days to others.

    But anyone can fall into a funk or get depressed. Maybe I can stop compounding that depression with depression, and instead meet it with compassion and unconditional love. It is what it is.

    And then I can move on just a bit lighter, knowing even as I walk out from under that cloud, I may meet it again, but that’s okay.

    I mean after all…it’s enough to deal with someone else beating you up. Do I really have to contend with myself doing the same thing?

  3. Rae says:

    A friend of mine called that “finishing the job.” They set us up and hurt us. When they’re not engaged in it, we do it to ourselves, ie, finishing the job. It’s natural for us to continue doing their work, we’ve been finishing jobs for them all along.

    When you have the chance, I’m putting together some information about yawning and empathy. When it’s ready, I’d be happy to write a post here about it. Meanwhile, if you want to see just how unempathic he is, yawn in front of him. He won’t catch it. As someone who was once partnered with an NPD, I bet you’re already yawning…

    Many cyber hugs to you. We’re in the sisterhood of survivors. Keeping going is what brings our children into the survivors’ circle. When you’ve got nothing else, hold on to that.

  4. PhoenixRising says:

    “Finishing the job”…whoah, that’s a good one, because that’s exactly what it is!

    Thank you! It kind of changes things, turns that energy around, doesn’t it? Perspective is an incredible thing, and sometimes that’s the only thing you have to stop the momentum of depression and pull you out.

    *Many* cyber hugs to you, Rae. Anytime you want to share more of your perspective in a post, you are more than welcome! It truly is our journey, no matter how circuitous it may appear to be at times, but it’s the tenacity to keep going despite the “bumps”, “potholes” or seemingly “bottomless pits” we fall into that really does bring our children into the survivor’s circle…and beyond.

    I will remember that. 🙂

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