Some Bruises Aren’t Black and Blue

Some are invisible. I no longer live with my narcissist (N), my dd has to on a periodic basis. Because she is getting older and developing her own personality apart from his she is starting to see and experience another side to her father. From what I understand, this is what happens with narcissists and their children. While the kids are very young and worshipful, narcissists can get along fabulously with their children. But when they start to grow up and get their own likes and dislikes and become less compliant, more individual, that’s when the honeymoon can end. It can be traumatic for the child. She is beginning to become the target of emotional outbursts and is learning what to say and how to say when she’s around him. She is learning about manipulation, walking on eggshells, how to put on a face, when to censure yourself and how to say what other people want to hear. She is also learning contempt for a parent she has to teach proper behavior around a child. She is learning survival techniques that children learn with narcissistic parents. I feel like I am fighting for her life, her integrity and character. It … Continue reading