I originally started these articles on another blog, healing-narcissism.com, I have since taken down. Even though the emphasis was on breaking the cycle of narcissism in yet another generation, the URL mocked me. You get a bit cynical when dealing with narcissists.
I have reposted the articles here using their original date of publication. I just feel this is a more accurate URL. All the articles dated up to October 23, 2007, are from the old blog. I haven’t posted much since then, in part, due to emotional exhaustion.
The only “healing” I can be responsible for is my own and to do my best to prevent the cycle of narcissism continuing through my child. But as far as dealing with a narcissistic “partner”, the only thing you can really do is cope to the best of your ability. Even the title of this blog needs clarification.
There is no “with” with a narcissistic individual. There is only “for” or “in service to” or “despite”. Actually, that would be the most accurate description – “PARENTING DESPITE A NARCISSIST”.
But I suppose in the loosest form of the term, “with” meaning some form of presence or area of impact by the narcissist, and not implying any type of collaboration, which narcissists appear incapable of, is, unfortunately, a sad reality many of us find ourselves.
You can make it work, even to your advantage, reaping a wealth of material in knowledge and awareness for you and your child. Of course there’s a price to pay. There always is in dealing with toxic people. But since you’re already paying the tuition, you might as well learn as much as you can.
You can do it.