http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/2010/01/18/the-depth-of-damage/ Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:42:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/2010/01/18/the-depth-of-damage/comment-page-1/#comment-232 Survivor Fri, 17 Sep 2010 12:24:51 +0000 http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/?p=261#comment-232 It sounds like you are doing exactly what is necessary, taking care of yourself. I think that is something I need to do today. When I stop taking care of myself the world becomes a troublesome place. Take care. It sounds like you are doing exactly what is necessary, taking care of yourself. I think that is something I need to do today. When I stop taking care of myself the world becomes a troublesome place. Take care.

]]> http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/2010/01/18/the-depth-of-damage/comment-page-1/#comment-231 beatrixkiddo Fri, 17 Sep 2010 00:38:20 +0000 http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/?p=261#comment-231 Thanks Survivor. I have taken to identifying and implementing many resources to help me get through this. I see a counselor, who is wonderful, have rejoined my support group--just today found a wonderful new group of women, plus am trying out alanon for help with the codependency. (Should re read Melody Beady!). I attend a martial arts class, which is one of my best tools. Reached out to an old and dear girlfriend and reconnected. She's going throuogh a painful break up right now too. Am reading meditation books. Taking steps to plan for a secure future, no matter what happens. Nurturing myself--therapist says carry around a photo of myself as a little girl and take it out and work on loving her and forgiving whenever I hear the voices of self doubt and guilt and shame. And learning and sharing here. Today, I feel sane! Thanks Survivor. I have taken to identifying and implementing many resources to help me get through this. I see a counselor, who is wonderful, have rejoined my support group–just today found a wonderful new group of women, plus am trying out alanon for help with the codependency. (Should re read Melody Beady!). I attend a martial arts class, which is one of my best tools. Reached out to an old and dear girlfriend and reconnected. She’s going throuogh a painful break up right now too. Am reading meditation books. Taking steps to plan for a secure future, no matter what happens. Nurturing myself–therapist says carry around a photo of myself as a little girl and take it out and work on loving her and forgiving whenever I hear the voices of self doubt and guilt and shame. And learning and sharing here. Today, I feel sane!

]]> http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/2010/01/18/the-depth-of-damage/comment-page-1/#comment-230 Survivor Thu, 16 Sep 2010 15:20:47 +0000 http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/?p=261#comment-230 The book Beyond Codependency really helped me figure out how I am wired and fed into this victim cycle. Therapy has also done me a world of good. These things may help you in coming to a sound decision and feel supported. There are a lot of different things happening in your life. I find the more I have in my life, the more compromised I am in making decisions. I guess that is why they say one step at a time. Hang in there. The book Beyond Codependency really helped me figure out how I am wired and fed into this victim cycle. Therapy has also done me a world of good. These things may help you in coming to a sound decision and feel supported. There are a lot of different things happening in your life. I find the more I have in my life, the more compromised I am in making decisions. I guess that is why they say one step at a time. Hang in there.

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