Sorry it’s been so long in responding. Been under a rock of depression, but I’m back again…

Just want to say I hear you, I really do. I wish I could give you something concrete, but that’s what this blog is for me – a way to deal with the frustration of trying to protect my child from a narcissistic parent.

Unfortunately, there’s not much you can do to protect your children when they’re with the N parent, unless the abuse rises to the level of child protection services or something. Much of the abuse narcissists inflict upon their children falls way below that radar, but is devestating nonetheless.

The best help you can offer your child is you. You have to be the source of validation, the example for honesty and authenticity. Where the narcissistic parent is blind to their child, you must see them – really see them. Make them feel seen and heard. Validate their feelings, make it safe for them to speak to you, share with you, and then you validate it for them.

As far as the narcissist ever leaving you alone…um, no, probably not. You may get lucky and get a reprieve for a while, if the narcissist’s attention has fallen on another target. He may lose interest in you and/or the child.

But he may also just find a partner to help him make your life more miserable. It’s hard to say.

As for me, I’m counting the years. But if the truth be known…there will be a wedding, life events, grandchildren etc where he may be around, and you’ll have to deal with that.

At least there won’t be regular visits, but once you have a child with a narcissist, it’s likely you’ll have to deal with them one way or another throughout that child’s life. \

Please strengthen yourself personally, get whatever help you need and create a strong support system with family and good friends.

I’m new to this site. I was just wondering if anyone have experienced an N just leaving them alone. I have a two year old with an N and sometimes I feel like I’m going to loose it. I pray every day for him to just leave me alone. I try ignoring him but he harrasses me even more when I do so. Am I doomed until my daughter turns 18? Any advice will be appreciated.