You wrote: “It’s like having your hair pulled out one at a time, eventually you look in the mirror and the girl you once knew is gone.”

And that is what’s so insidious about being with emotionally abusive people. Losing your self esteem can happen so slowly that you don’t even realize it’s happening – even though you feel the pain. You don’t even see it until when you do you no longer recognize who you are.

I hope things are going better for you these days. I know how hard it is to share custody. Wishing you the best. And stop by again some time.

It is scary, but you are already more “prepared” just by becoming knowledgeable, by learning and getting as much information as you can. So hard to learn by trial and error, and while you still will make mistakes, because narcissists are SO slippery, you will do fine.

I’m sorry the father of your child is a narcissist, but I’m also happy that your child has at least one parent with eyes open, and willing to be there for it.

This is the time to strengthen whatever resources or support network you have or to create one. Narcissists are intimidated by true friends and family. They will want to isolate you if not physically, then emotionally as much as possible.

But you can make it, and as long as your child has you, they can make it too. Good luck!