Excerpt from a thought-provoking post: http://narc-attack.blogspot.com/2006/11/how-children-of-narcissists-get.html [The child of a narcissist] will grow up conditioned to think that the greatest sin is having anybody commit one against you… When that child becomes an adult and goes out into the world, he will tolerate narcissists, because he has been conditioned to. The double-standard is so deeply ingrained that this child thinks, “Some people are just that way.” To be a good person, you must tolerate whatever treatment they feel like dishing out to you. …you must seriously consider getting very young children away from a narcissistic spouse. And, if you can’t or decide not to for some reason, you must make sure not to fall into this trap. The main thing is NOT to go into denial. Consider and be aware of the effect it tends to have on your children’s psyche. Counter that effect. Make sure the normal child never … Continue reading
Well, you really can't parent "with" a narcissist - narcissists have no comprehension of teamwork or collaboration. But you may have the misfortune of trying to raise a child who has a narcissistic parent.
These are the writings of parents attempting to retain some semblance of sanity, as we try to deal with the game playing, gaslighting, manipulating, sabotage, entitlement, self importance, image priority, lying, and verbal abuse of narcissistic fathers or mothers of our children.
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The greatest harm done is in making us feel alone.
We're not. You need be silent no longer.