I write, I forget, I write, I forget…or so it seems. It does appear at times I’m making progress though, but I find in struggling with a narcissist, it takes so much out of you that sometimes it’s all you can do to just deal with the moment and hard to think of or remember anything else.

I’ve been reading about so called “Parental Alienation Syndrome.” It is not a valid diagnosis. And the man who invented it had real serious issues with no hidden disdain for women or children. It’s not that parents don’t use children against one another, but to use this as a psychiatric label to disempower women and take children away from their protecting parent, and often into the hands of abusers, is his invention and our society’s shame.

So sad so many lives have been ruined by it, as it is touted as pure science superseding everything else in the courts.

You know, it’s despicable your daughter’s father should tell his stepmother to tell her it was your fault he wasn’t there, but why in God’s name would she choose to tell her that anyway? And before her ceremony. It sounds like self centered agendas run in that family.

And you’re right, it’s hard to tell too many people about this kind of narcissism and what is actually going on. You can start to appear crazy or bitter. That’s what an aberration this type of behavior is. Unless you’ve been there, it’s hard to comprehend that level of sick selfishness.

Thanks for your kind words, Isabell. While I’d like to be regular, while I’m still dealing with these dynamics, it all depends on when I wash ashore from some emotional increduality to be able to post, because it really deviates from the human norm.

Anyway, your kindness encourages me to continue. And I thank you.

P.S. Great site.

It’s been 4.5 years since the beggining of the end. He married the lunatic a year ago, and there are reports that they’ve split up a couple of times. It took the focus off of us, for a while. But, he’s back…claiming Parental Alienation Syndrom; though he is the one that has managed to convince his parents and extended family that he’s the victim; assinating the character of his own children, causing them to be “cut out” of their extended families lives. He’s the one that didn’t show up for our daughter’s 8th Grade Graduation Ceremony where she was being Nationally recognized for haveing an exemplory character, with high academic achievements. He had his step-mother tell our daughter he couldn’t be there because I didn’t tell him about it. Our daughter had witnessed several conversations about her graduation. She knew the truth; but still, to be told this moments before her big moment…managed to make her graduation about him, of course. The truth is, he was having engagement pictures taken.

I know exactly what you are saying regarding the dental work vs giving a cool gift. Gift giving has always been about what made him look good.

I just found your blog, today. I’m amazed and delighted. I don’t know how to explain how reading your blogs, and researching some of the links you’ve posted have caused me to realize I’m not alone. I’m not crazy. It’s not all in my head. What is so shocking to me is that every story, I could have written. In fact, some stories I have, with near exact phrasing of the N-ex portrayed in other’s stories.

In my world, I’ve learned not to talk about what’s going on too much. People only have a limited capacity to comprehend the magnitude of what the kids and I are dealing with. Finding your site, has been like finding an oasis in the middle of the desert.

Thank you!

P.S. There is another site I found this week that completely amazed me with the stories, and educational insights about what we are dealing with. It’s at http://www.Lovefraud.com.