Comments on: The nature of the beast http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/2007/10/23/the-nature-of-the-beast/ Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:42:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: PhoenixRising http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/2007/10/23/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-13 PhoenixRising Fri, 22 Aug 2008 12:02:14 +0000 http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/?p=38#comment-13 Oh, EchoHope! That is SO scarey! Is there anyway you can move...but then he can always follow. But if he does, you can show a pattern of being stalked. How close are you to your neighbors. I know it's a tricky thing. You can wind up sounding like a bitter ex, especially if he's all nice to them. It will depend on how well you know your neighbors. How about setting up a hidden surveillance camera? I know it can be an added expense you may not be able to afford, but having a person with narcissistic personality disorder in your life is costly anyway. You might as well put some of that expense toward your benefit and safety, if possible. Even save for it. You are in my prayers, EchoHope. I pray for your safety and peace of mind. God bless you. ~PhoenixRising Oh, EchoHope! That is SO scarey! Is there anyway you can move…but then he can always follow. But if he does, you can show a pattern of being stalked.

How close are you to your neighbors. I know it’s a tricky thing. You can wind up sounding like a bitter ex, especially if he’s all nice to them. It will depend on how well you know your neighbors.

How about setting up a hidden surveillance camera? I know it can be an added expense you may not be able to afford, but having a person with narcissistic personality disorder in your life is costly anyway. You might as well put some of that expense toward your benefit and safety, if possible. Even save for it.

You are in my prayers, EchoHope. I pray for your safety and peace of mind.

God bless you.

~PhoenixRising

]]> By: EchoHope http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/2007/10/23/the-nature-of-the-beast/comment-page-1/#comment-12 EchoHope Thu, 21 Aug 2008 14:08:35 +0000 http://parentingwithanarcissist.com/?p=38#comment-12 I will pray for you and everyone else who has to deal with this. I hate that anyone else in the world has to go through this, but I am glad that there are others who understand. I know I'm not crazy, but I also know that he wants me to think that I am. And he especially wants others to think I am. My husband, who NEVER wanted to be home when I wanted him here, and who used to get apartments or stay with "Friends" overnight while we were together because the ONE hour drive home was just too long, has just moved in 4 doors down from me. It is so creepy to have him so nearby, and he is talking all friendly to all of my neighbors who he formerly called "a bunch of rednecks". He never wanted to talk to any of them because they weren't high class enough for him before. Also, speaking of "gaslighting", he has been doing that figuratively as well as almost literally here. I have yet to prove that it's him, but, since he has moved in, 3 times I have come home to find my propane grill ON but not lit. I have disconnected everything, and locked it up, since the first time it happened, but the knobs have still been turned on HIGH since then. Also, things inside my home have been "moved" or doors opened that I knew I had shut even after I changed the locks. I think he might have somehow made a copy of the key or maybe is coming in through a window. I will pray for you and everyone else who has to deal with this. I hate that anyone else in the world has to go through this, but I am glad that there are others who understand. I know I’m not crazy, but I also know that he wants me to think that I am. And he especially wants others to think I am. My husband, who NEVER wanted to be home when I wanted him here, and who used to get apartments or stay with “Friends” overnight while we were together because the ONE hour drive home was just too long, has just moved in 4 doors down from me. It is so creepy to have him so nearby, and he is talking all friendly to all of my neighbors who he formerly called “a bunch of rednecks”. He never wanted to talk to any of them because they weren’t high class enough for him before. Also, speaking of “gaslighting”, he has been doing that figuratively as well as almost literally here. I have yet to prove that it’s him, but, since he has moved in, 3 times I have come home to find my propane grill ON but not lit. I have disconnected everything, and locked it up, since the first time it happened, but the knobs have still been turned on HIGH since then. Also, things inside my home have been “moved” or doors opened that I knew I had shut even after I changed the locks. I think he might have somehow made a copy of the key or maybe is coming in through a window.

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